| Writer's Block: Kids or child-free? |
[11 Mar 2010|01:05am] |
It's not really that I "reached a decision" about it. I think outside of reportedly believing my little brother was a doll when he was born, I've never had any interest in children. I like kids when they're quiet, polite, and clean -- and it's a rare kid who's that combination at the same time. I just can't do babies at all. I want to smack the everloving shit out of other people's kids. KEEP CRYING AND I WILL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT.
Rich and I talked pretty early on about me not wanting kids, and his reaction was pretty much "oh thank god," because this means I will not be a crazy person who skips BC pills or puts holes in condoms. So we decided separately before we came together.
That said, if he wanted kids, or was even on the fence more than a certain amount, I'd be deciding for the both of us. If he (or any potential mate) wants babies/own biological children, s/he does not want me. This uterus is a no-vacancy zone and that's not something I'd compromise on.
That said, I'm not opposed to adoption if Rich and I ever get to a point in our lives where we want/can handle a kid. A kid who's already 6-7 years old, por favor. Potty trained. Talks. I hate to make this comparison, but it's like getting a puppy vs an adult dog. I'd never get a puppy, either, because I wouldn't want to have to go through training it to not mess in the house, not chew the furniture, sit when I tell it to sit. Some people want the cuteness and newness and puppy breath, some people want to give a home to an animal that already exists. Maybe I'm a bad person but at least my dog isn't going to whine and annoy the neighbors for the entire 8 hours I'm at work because it hasn't learned to handle that yet, and my kid is going to sit and colour and maybe whine a little instead of screaming its damn fool head off if we have to stop by the bank on the way home.
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